Or, do you punish the lack of perfection? I’ll admit, I do both. It’s hard, sometimes, to recognize that things are getting better when they are frustrating AF, and maybe even something you take personally. (Prefer to listen to the podcast?) Luckily, I’m pretty good at rewarding the minor improvements…

On November 13, 2021, WhosThatBear presented the topic “How to Plan an Orgy” for Dating Kinky’s ‘It’s All About PLAY!’ Weekend event. …

There is this one conversation I keep having about communication. It’s about “brutal” honesty and how shitty it is, and it came up again in my LIVE last Thursday. I can’t stress enough that brutal honesty is just an excuse to bully people with truth, and that we all should…

“i pray you attract lovers romantic and platonic that never aim to manipulate or harm you, that never embarrass you, make you question your sanity, or abandon you when you need someone to hold your hand.” — @ichriecheblut, on twitter This inspired me for this Friday’s bit of sappery. I…

Today’s writing and my Throwback Thursday podcast and LIVE are on the same topics. I’ll go live at 1pm today on YouTube, Facebook, Twitter and mōn, talking about shaping our lives through power exchange and romance and how challenging finding (MAKING) that balance is. — In the “My Power, Your…

A couple of weeks ago, I was on an Authors’ panel at TESFest with Dan and Dawn. …

On September 28, 2020, Deb, TheKinkShrink presented the topic “Multiple people + multiple communication styles = multiple possible problems, let’s change that math!” for Dating Kinky’s It’s Not Cheating weekend focused on nonmonogamy. The original presentation was free to all who joined us live, and was recorded for Dating Kinky’s…

And you know what else? It’s encouraged by many. Comments like, “This is a polyamory group, not a polyfuckery group,” or “Yeah, it sounds like they are just a swinger, not polyamorous at all,” abound. The original definition of polyamorous, by the people who coined the phrase in modern times…

I spent 34 years of my life being pretty disconnected from the rest of the world. I always felt like an outsider. I could make friends, when I played my cards right and was intentional about it, but it was difficult for me, and when I relaxed, they would drift…