Do you reward the minor improvements?

Example one: I did the wrong thing.

Example two: I did the right thing.

A few common examples:

  • Punishing someone for arriving late, instead of rewarding them for arriving earlier than they might have a year ago.
  • Punishing someone for telling you something a day later, instead of rewarding them for telling you (when they may have kept it hidden in a past incarnation).
  • Punishing someone for telling you a lie, instead of rewarding them for correcting themselves with the truth.
  • Punishing someone for calling to let you know they will get home late because they drank too much and are catching an Uber, instead of rewarding them for being responsible and doing the right thing.
  • Punishing someone (or just not rewarding them) for not [fill-in the blank new habit] fast enough, instead of rewarding them for every effort and small win

In dog training and people training you need motivation…

Forgive yourself for your imperfections, too…

What are your thoughts?

--

--

Get the Medium app

A button that says 'Download on the App Store', and if clicked it will lead you to the iOS App store
A button that says 'Get it on, Google Play', and if clicked it will lead you to the Google Play store
Nookie @ Dating Kinky

Nookie @ Dating Kinky

Writing about healthy and fun sex, ethical non-monogamy and kink for everyone, running a kinky dating site at https://datingkinky.com, and exploring life.