Great dominants are those who make others feel that they, too, can become great.

Nookie @ Dating Kinky
2 min readMay 20, 2021

I saw a quote the other day on social media by Mark Twain:

“Great people are those who make others feel that they, too, can become great.” — Mark Twain

And like an ear worm, it wouldn’t get out of my head. Until I realized that I needed to make use of it.

So, for those of you who are dominants out there:

  • Do you strive to make the people in your life feel inspired?
  • Do you encourage and support them?
  • Are you rooting for them, whether that means it benefits you or not?
  • And most of all, do you endeavor to make them feel like they can become great-and like they are great?

And for those of you who partner with dominants (and for you dominants, regarding your dominant peers):

  • Do the people in your life make you feel inspired?
  • Do they encourage and support you?
  • Are they rooting for you, whether that means it benefits them or not?
  • And most of all, do they make you feel like you can become great-and like you are great? (Because you are. Obviously.)

If not, you gotta ask yourself, why not?

I don’t mean within a scene. Because some scenes are hella hot and humiliating AF.

I mean in life and love.

The more I put into making the people in my life feel their greatness and pursue it, the stronger and more amazing they become.

And the more time I spend around those people that I do my best to lift up, the lighter or easier or better my life is, and the stronger I become. As a dominant. As a human.

If you think about all the dominant folk in your life right now, are there ones who help you grow (in whatever area-kindness, career, parenthood, health)? Or do they keep you down?

Here’s the thing though. I’m calling out the dominants because, well, I can.

But inspiring others to greatness is something we can all do.

Who is great in your life? Who inspires you to be great(er)?

Originally published at https://datingkinky.com on May 20, 2021.

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Nookie @ Dating Kinky

Writing about healthy and fun sex, ethical non-monogamy and kink for everyone, running a kinky dating site at https://datingkinky.com, and exploring life.