Nonmonogamy: one plus one is 1, one plus two is 3, and one plus three is 6.

Is it one plus one equals 1, or one plus one equals 3?

  1. How will this affect me?
  2. How will this affect my partner?
  3. How will this affect our relationship?
  1. How will this affect me?
  2. How will this affect person 1?
  3. How will this affect person 2?
  4. How will this affect my relationship with person 1?
  5. How will this affect my relationship with person 2?
  6. How will this affect the relationship between person 1 and person 2?
  1. How will this affect me?
  2. How will this affect person 1?
  3. How will this affect person 2?
  4. How will this affect my relationship with person 1?
  5. How will this affect my relationship with person 2?

Let’s go back to monogamy for a moment…

  1. How will this affect me?
  2. How will this affect my partner?
  3. How will this affect our relationship?
  1. How will this affect me?
  2. How will this affect my partner?

What’s your effing point, Nookie?

  1. The individuals involved.
  2. The relationships.
  • Having a fight with partner 1, but going on a date with partner 2?
  • In deep love with partner 2, limerence stage, but have daily life and drudgery to get through with partner 1?
  • Partner 3 just discovered they have a potentially deadly cancer while you are on a romantic getaway with partner 1?
  • Maybe you have a power exchange dynamic with partner 2, which affects what you are allowed to do (or choose to do) with partner 1 and any others.
  • Maybe partner 1 lives far away, and it takes a lot of time and travel to maintain that connection, not leaving as much for partner 2.

My suggestion…

What are your thoughts?

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Nookie @ Dating Kinky

Nookie @ Dating Kinky

Writing about healthy and fun sex, ethical non-monogamy and kink for everyone, running a kinky dating site at https://datingkinky.com, and exploring life.