The business of kink…

Do I feel bad about selling my books about kink?

  • Why do you have to charge so much?
  • Shouldn’t you do it for the love of your community?
  • Where does the money go?
  • Can I get a discount?
  • You’re just in it for the money.
  • Getting rich off kinky people is unethical.
  • My expenses
  • My time (for example, what is the hourly wage I actually make?)
  • The bullshit I have to put up with by daring to sell a book that took over 100 hours of time to create, or charging for an event that requires set up and tear down and renting a space and food and safety equipment and volunteers and insurance and…and…

I give a lot back.

If I may…

  1. Go buy something from a kinky small business. From me is great. From another is also wonderful. Spend a bit of money to support people who do things that matter to you.
  2. Comment here with your favorite book authors, video content creators, toy makers, educators, kinky conventions, pro kinksters, whatever — and if you can, please tag them or share a link so others can find them and learn about what amazing things they do for the world of kink.

What are your thoughts?



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Nookie @ Dating Kinky

Nookie @ Dating Kinky

Writing about healthy and fun sex, ethical non-monogamy and kink for everyone, running a kinky dating site at, and exploring life.